Tuesday, September 16, 2008

How To Deal With Setbacks

I am often asked how do you come back from a major setback, or how can you keep pursuing your dream of success. It is not always easy, but there is a Chinese story I like to reference when I tell people to keep going. I have listed it below. My advice, "Just be bigger."


"Become a Lake" - a Taoist-Chinese story
An aging master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, he sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a cup of water and then to drink it.
 
"How does it taste?" the master asked. "Bitter," spit the apprentice.

The master chuckled and then asked the young man to take the same handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake, and once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, "Now drink from the lake."

As the water dripped down the young man's chin, the master asked, "How does it taste?" "Fresh, refreshing," remarked the apprentice.

"Do you taste the salt?" asked the master. "No," said the young man.

At this, the master sat beside this serious young man who so reminded him of himself and took his hands, offering, "The pain of life is like a handful of salt; no more, no less; the amount of pain in life remains the exactly the same.

However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things . . . Stop being a cup. Become a lake."

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