Saturday, February 18, 2017

Men v. Boys

I have been reading a lot of articles of late about relationships and seeing some that put men into groups without understanding that men are NOT all alike.  By lumping all men together, the concept of being a gentleman is not come into play. Women, and people in general, have to realize that there are men of character, culture and grace, and then there are boys.  Boys are men who have chosen not to grow up and wise in the ways of civility, charm, and substance. This post highlights the differences between men and boys.  Ladies, which are you dating? Men, whom are you?


Men: See women as the fairer, not weaker, sex
Boys: See women as weak and just for sex
Men: Realize that to be a leader, you need to be a servant
Boys: Only want to be seen as a leader to get the recognition
Men: Hold doors, and rise when a woman enters a room or comes to the table, knows how to be a gentleman
Boys: Have no idea what those concepts are nor why you should do it for women
Men: Honor women
Boys: Desire women
Men: Make Love
Boys: Have Sex
Men: Give freedom and power to their significant other
Boys: Want to control and possess his girlfriend
Men: Appreciate a woman’s character, heart, and mind more than the beauty she possesses
Boys: Look for beauty first, and does not care of what she thinks, feels, or acts
Men: See women as equal partners
Boys: See women as something to “own”
Men: Take women out on dates
Boys: Do Booty calls
Men: Understand and practice the concepts of truth, integrity and fidelity with themselves and others
Boys: Are not faithful or honest with themselves so could not be with a woman or others

Saturday, February 4, 2017

The Tough Get Going

During my years of working at startups and trying to get funding, I have developed a pretty accurate guide on what it takes to raise money. The main reason why some startups are not successful with certain funding entities or organizations is because there is not a "rightness of fit." What that means is unless you have some incredibly compelling reason for someone to invest with you, that they will look for an excuse not to. I can appreciate that one of your founders may be a friend of one of the potential funding organization’s partners, but unless you are talking directly to the guy or gal who makes the decision to fund or not, you are just wasting time with a gatekeeper, and gatekeepers do not go outside their comfort zone.

In addition, too many companies shop their business plans around too much. Yes, maybe you will get lucky, but in between, you are going to get rejected by lots of VCs. The one major potential downside is that the word gets out that your company is desperate for money (and desperate people do not inspire confidence in others). If at all possible, try to get an introduction to the decision makers through a trusted source (attorney, accountant, venture partner, etc.), instead of cold calling. It never hurts to walk up to a potential investor you do not know, but plans that get "thrown over the transom" rarely get reviewed not matter what they say.

My suggestion to any company struggling to raise money is to first calm down, and secondly look at what you are doing right by answering yes to the following questions:

1) Are you in the right market space at the right time?
2) Is your company message resonating with potential customers?
3) Do you have a good business model (pathway to profits)?
4) Do you have a compelling fire in your belly that what you are doing is right?
5) Do you have an exceptional leader and good executive team?
6) Do you have enough money to maintain your team for another 12 months?
7) Is new market data bearing out your original business assumptions?
8) Do you think you will get an intro to well-connected investor, and soon?

If you can answer yes to 6 out of 8 of these questions, where does it leave you? First, make sure you are preserving capital as best as possible, and just keep the goal in mind that you are potentially creating a company that may one day change the world and perhaps make you very rich. Next, you may have to get creative in raising funds by going to potential customers or vendors who can benefit in your company’s product or services and perhaps ask for a pre-payment or an NRE to get a little cash in the door without having to give up equity.  Or as an alternative perhaps share some of your future revenues with an investor to take the "risk" out of the investment. Times are tough, and the tough get creative in order to survive.

If you cannot answer the affirmative to at least 5 of the questions above, you either need to take steps to do so, or consider putting your endeavor on the shelf until the storm clouds pass.

Remember, no matter what you do you need to just chill.

Sunday, January 29, 2017

44 Truisms and Quips

I am a big believer in humor and love intelligent word play.  Over the course if my, many, many years, I have run across quite a few truisms and now have listed them here for you to enjoy.  It is not all inclusive, but they are funny, and right now, we all can use a bit of humor.  Enjoy, and I hope you get a chuckle out of them.

1.    If I had a dollar for every girl that found me unattractive, they'd eventually find me attractive.

2.    I find it ironic that the colors red, white, and blue stand for freedom, until they're flashing behind you.

3.    Today a man knocked on my door and asked for a small donation towards the local swimming pool, so I gave him a glass of water.

4.    I changed my password to "incorrect" so whenever I forget it the computer will say, "Your password is incorrect."

5.    Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

6.    I'm great at multi-tasking--I can waste time, be unproductive, and procrastinate all at once.

7.    If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone in mind to blame.

8.    Never tell your problems to anyone, because 20 percent don't care and the other 80 percent are glad you have them.

9.    Doesn't expecting the unexpected mean that the unexpected is actually expected?

10.  Take my advice — I'm not using it.

11.  I hate it when people use big words just to make themselves sound perspicacious.

12.  Hospitality is the art of making guests feel like they're at home when you wish they were.

13.  Television may insult your intelligence, but nothing rubs it in like a computer.

14.  I bought a vacuum cleaner six months ago and so far all it's been doing is gathering dust.

15.  Every time someone comes up with a foolproof solution, along comes a more talented fool.

16.  I'll bet you $4,567 you can't guess how much I owe my bookie.

17.  Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.

18.  If you keep your feet firmly on the ground, you'll have trouble putting on your pants.

19.  A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.

20.  Ever stop to think and forget to start again?

21.  When I married Ms. Right, I had no idea her first name was Always.

22.  My wife got 8 out 10 on her driver's test--the other two guys managed to jump out of her way.

23.  There may be no excuse for laziness, but I'm still looking.

24.  Women spend more time wondering what men are thinking than men spend thinking.

25.  Give me ambiguity or give me something else.

26.  He who laughs last thinks slowest.

27.  Is it wrong that only one company makes the game Monopoly?

28.  Women sometimes make fools of men, but most guys are the do-it-yourself type.

29.  I was going to give him a nasty look, but he already had one.

30.  Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine.

31.  The grass may be greener on the other side but at least you don't have to mow it.

32.  I like long walks, especially when they're taken by people who annoy me.

33.  I was going to wear my camouflage shirt today, but I couldn't find it.

34.  If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

35.  Sometimes I wake up grumpy; other times I let her sleep.

36.  If tomatoes are technically a fruit, is ketchup a smoothie?

37.  Money is the root of all wealth.

38.  No matter how much you push the envelope, it'll still be stationery.

39.  Stealing someone’s coffee is called a mugging.

40.  The other day, I held the door open for a clown. It was a nice jester.

41.  Pasteurize: Too far to see. (sound it out)

42   Whomever invented knock-knock jokes should get the “no-bell’ prize.

43.  The Energized bunny got arrested: It was charged with battery.

44.  I put my grandma on speed dial. I call it Instagram.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Quotations By Rumi

Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎), also known as Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد رومی‎), Mawlānā or Molānā (Persian: مولانا‎, meaning Our Master), Mawlawī or Molavi (Persian: مولوی‎, meaning My Master), and more popularly in the English-speaking world simply as Rumi (30 September 1207 – 17 December 1273), was a 13th-century Persian poet, jurist, theologian, and Sufi mystic. Rumi's importance is considered to transcend national and ethnic borders. His poems have been widely translated into many of the world's languages and transposed into various formats. His best poems are listed below for your convenience.

“I closed my mouth and spoke to you in a hundred silent ways.”

“Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full.”

“You have escaped the cage. Your wings are stretched out. Now fly.”

“I belong to no religion. My religion is love. Every heart is my temple.”

“Your body is away from me, but there is a window open from my heart to yours.”

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

“At the end of my life, with just one breath left, if you come, I’ll sit up and sing.”

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.”

“When I am with you, we stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
Praise God for those two insomnias!
And the difference between them.”

“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.”

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.”

“Oh soul,
you worry too much.
You have seen your own strength.
You have seen your own beauty.
You have seen your golden wings.
Of anything less,
why do you worry?
You are in truth
the soul, of the soul, of the soul.”

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”

“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.”

“Don't grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”

“You were born with wings. Why prefer to crawl through life?”

“The way you make love is the way
God will be with you.”

“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.”

“Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don't claim them. Feel the artistry moving through and be silent.”

“Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absent-minded. Someone sober will worry about events going badly. Let the lover be.”

“Every tree and plant in the meadow seemed to be dancing, those which average eyes would see as fixed and still.”

“We come spinning out of nothingness, scattering stars like dust.”

“All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I'm sure of that, and I intend to end up there.”

“He is like a man using a candle to look for the sun.”

“Something opens our wings. Something makes boredom and hurt disappear. Someone fills the cup in front of us: We taste only sacredness.”

“The lion is most handsome when looking for food.”

“Everyone sees the unseen in proportion to the clarity of his heart, and that depends upon how much he has polished it. Whoever has polished it more sees more - more unseen forms become manifest to him.”

“We can’t help being thirsty, moving toward the voice of water.”

“It may be that the satisfaction I need depends on my going away, so that when I've gone and come back, I'll find it at home.”

“I died a mineral, and became a plant. I died a plant and rose an animal. I died an animal and I was man. Why should I fear? When was I less by dying?”

“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment.”

“Why do you stay in prison
when the door is so wide open?
Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking.
Live in silence.”

“You are quaffing drink from a hundred fountains: whenever any of these hundred yields less, your pleasure is diminished. But when the sublime fountain gushes from within you, no longer need you steal from the other fountains.”

“To praise the sun is to praise your own eyes.”

“Return from existence to nonexistence. You are seeking the Lord and you belong to him. Nonexistence is a place of income; flee it not. This existence of more and less is a place of expenditure.”

“Reason is like an officer when the king appears. The officer then loses his power and hides himself. Reason is the shadow cast by God; God is the sun.”

“The Eternal looked upon me for a moment with His eye of power, and annihilated me in His being, and become manifest to me in His essence. I saw I existed through Him.”

“Pilgrimage to the place of the wise is to find escape from the flame of separateness.”

“In your light I learn how to love.
In your beauty, how to make poems.
You dance inside my chest,
where no one sees you.”

“Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.”

“One day You will take my heart completely and make it more fiery than a dragon. Your eyelashes will write on my heart the poem that could never come from the pen of a poet.”

“Who could be so lucky? Who comes to a lake for water and sees the reflection of moon.”

“Knowest thou not the beauty of thine own face? Quit this temper that leads thee to war with thyself.”

“Now I am sober and there's only the hangover and the memory of love.”

“The ground submits to the sky and suffers whatever comes. Tell me, is the Earth worse for giving in like that?”

“Look at Love...
how it tangles
with the one fallen in love.”

“A shadow cannot ignore
the sun that all day creates and moves it.”

“Fear is the cheapest room in the house.”

“All that you think is rain is not. Behind the veil angels sometimes weep.”

“Liberated from suffering and search
I have tied myself to the skirt of God.
If I fly, I look at the summits I ascend.
If I go around in circle
I observe the axis on which I revolve.
If I am dragged by a burden,
I know where I go.
For I am the moon, and the sun is my guide.”

“Oh Sweet Bitterness!
I will soothe you and heal you
I will bring you roses
I too have been covered with thorns.”

“Silence within silence, no words within blank space, nothing on blank page, less within the void.”

“The hurt you embrace becomes joy.”

“You are so weak. Give up to grace.
The ocean takes care of each wave
till it gets to shore.”

“How will you know the difficulties of being human, if you are always flying off to blue perfection?”

“How do the birds make great sky circles... They fall and falling they are given wings.”

“Try and be a sheet of paper with nothing on it.
Be a spot of ground where nothing is growing,
where something might be planted,
a seed, possibly, from the Absolute.”

“Water in the boat is the ruin of the boat, but water under the boat is its support.”

“Joy lives concealed in grief.”

“Days of wanting.
Let them go by without worrying
that they do.
Stay where you are
inside such a pure, hollow note.”

“Look at your heart and tongue, one feels but deaf and dumb, the other speaks in words and signs.”

“The delight a friend feels when he hears a friend's voice bring all that matters. There are those who hear within a voice the essence being said, and there are those who can't.”

“Don't look at your form, however ugly or beautiful. Look at love and at the aim of your quest...O you whose lips are parched, keep looking for water. Those parched lips are proof that eventually you will reach the source.”

“Come out of the circle of time and into the Circle of Love.”

"You are searching the world for treasure, but the real treasure is yourself.

Not the ones speaking the same language, but the ones sharing the same feeling understand each other.

Come into my eyes, and look at me through them,
for I have chosen a home far beyond what eyes can see.

Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain which grows flowers, not thunder.

There is hope after despair and many suns after darkness.

The real beloved is that one who is unique, who is your beginning and your end.

The very center of your heart is where life begins, the most beautiful place on earth.

Light up the fire of love inside and blaze the thoughts away.

If you wish to be a mine of jewels, open the deep ocean within your heart.

Blessed is the poem that comes through me but not of me because the sound of my own music will drown the song of Love.

Love is a mirror..You see nothing but your reflection..You see nothing but your real face.

“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.”

I looked in temples, churches and mosques. But I found the Divine in my heart.

All doubt, despair, and fear become insignificant once the intention of life becomes love.

Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.

The cure for pain is in the pain.

Gratitude is the wine for the soul. Go on. Get drunk.

If you wish for light, be ready to receive light.”

"Love is not written on paper, for paper can be erased. Nor it is etched on stone, for stone can be broken. But it is inscribed on a heart and there it shall remain forever." 

“We rarely hear the inward music, but we’re all dancing to it nevertheless.”

Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor.”

“When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of distress and anxiety. If I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without any pain.”

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

“Go find yourself first so you can find me.”

--Jalal ad-Din Rumi