Monday, July 31, 2017

Quotations By Rumi

Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Balkhī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد بلخى‎), also known as Jalāl ad-Dīn Muhammad Rūmī (Persian: جلال‌الدین محمد رومی‎), Mawlānā or Molānā (Persian: مولانا‎, meaning Our Master), Mawlawī or Molavi (Persian: مولوی‎, meaning My Master), and more popularly in the English-speaking world simply as Rumi (30 September 1207 – 17 December 1273), was a 13th-century Persian poet, jurist, theologian, and Sufi mystic. Rumi's importance is considered to transcend national and ethnic borders. His poems have been widely translated into many of the world's languages and transposed into various formats. His best poems are listed below for your convenience.

I am yours. Don’t give myself back to me.”

“I closed my mouth and spoke to you in a hundred silent ways.”

“Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full.”

“You have escaped the cage. Your wings are stretched out. Now fly.”

“I belong to no religion. My religion is love. Every heart is my temple.”

“Your body is away from me, but there is a window open from my heart to yours.”

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

“At the end of my life, with just one breath left, if you come, I’ll sit up and sing.”

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.”

“When I am with you, we stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.
Praise God for those two insomnias!
And the difference between them.”

“This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.”

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.”

“Oh soul,
you worry too much.
You have seen your own strength.
You have seen your own beauty.
You have seen your golden wings.
Of anything less,
why do you worry?
You are in truth
the soul, of the soul, of the soul.”

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”

“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.”

“Don't grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.”

“You were born with wings. Why prefer to crawl through life?”

“The way you make love is the way
God will be with you.”

“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.”

“Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don't claim them. Feel the artistry moving through and be silent.”

“Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absent-minded. Someone sober will worry about events going badly. Let the lover be.”

“Every tree and plant in the meadow seemed to be dancing, those which average eyes would see as fixed and still.”

“We come spinning out of nothingness, scattering stars like dust.”

“All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I'm sure of that, and I intend to end up there.”

“He is like a man using a candle to look for the sun.”

“Something opens our wings. Something makes boredom and hurt disappear. Someone fills the cup in front of us: We taste only sacredness.”

“The lion is most handsome when looking for food.”

“Everyone sees the unseen in proportion to the clarity of his heart, and that depends upon how much he has polished it. Whoever has polished it more sees more - more unseen forms become manifest to him.”

“We can’t help being thirsty, moving toward the voice of water.”

“It may be that the satisfaction I need depends on my going away, so that when I've gone and come back, I'll find it at home.”

“I died a mineral, and became a plant. I died a plant and rose an animal. I died an animal and I was man. Why should I fear? When was I less by dying?”

“Sell your cleverness and buy bewilderment.”

“Why do you stay in prison
when the door is so wide open?
Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking.
Live in silence.”

“You are quaffing drink from a hundred fountains: whenever any of these hundred yields less, your pleasure is diminished. But when the sublime fountain gushes from within you, no longer need you steal from the other fountains.”

“To praise the sun is to praise your own eyes.”

“Return from existence to nonexistence. You are seeking the Lord and you belong to him. Nonexistence is a place of income; flee it not. This existence of more and less is a place of expenditure.”

“Reason is like an officer when the king appears. The officer then loses his power and hides himself. Reason is the shadow cast by God; God is the sun.”

“The Eternal looked upon me for a moment with His eye of power, and annihilated me in His being, and become manifest to me in His essence. I saw I existed through Him.”

“Pilgrimage to the place of the wise is to find escape from the flame of separateness.”

“In your light I learn how to love.
In your beauty, how to make poems.
You dance inside my chest,
where no one sees you.”

“Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.”

“One day You will take my heart completely and make it more fiery than a dragon. Your eyelashes will write on my heart the poem that could never come from the pen of a poet.”

“Who could be so lucky? Who comes to a lake for water and sees the reflection of moon.”

“Knowest thou not the beauty of thine own face? Quit this temper that leads thee to war with thyself.”

“Now I am sober and there's only the hangover and the memory of love.”

“The ground submits to the sky and suffers whatever comes. Tell me, is the Earth worse for giving in like that?”

“Look at Love...
how it tangles
with the one fallen in love.”

“A shadow cannot ignore
the sun that all day creates and moves it.”

“Fear is the cheapest room in the house.”

“All that you think is rain is not. Behind the veil angels sometimes weep.”

“Liberated from suffering and search
I have tied myself to the skirt of God.
If I fly, I look at the summits I ascend.
If I go around in circle
I observe the axis on which I revolve.
If I am dragged by a burden,
I know where I go.
For I am the moon, and the sun is my guide.”

“Oh Sweet Bitterness!
I will soothe you and heal you
I will bring you roses
I too have been covered with thorns.”

“Silence within silence, no words within blank space, nothing on blank page, less within the void.”

“The hurt you embrace becomes joy.”

“You are so weak. Give up to grace.
The ocean takes care of each wave
till it gets to shore.”

“How will you know the difficulties of being human, if you are always flying off to blue perfection?”

“How do the birds make great sky circles... They fall and falling they are given wings.”

“Try and be a sheet of paper with nothing on it.
Be a spot of ground where nothing is growing,
where something might be planted,
a seed, possibly, from the Absolute.”

“Water in the boat is the ruin of the boat, but water under the boat is its support.”

“Joy lives concealed in grief.”

“Days of wanting.
Let them go by without worrying
that they do.
Stay where you are
inside such a pure, hollow note.”

“Look at your heart and tongue, one feels but deaf and dumb, the other speaks in words and signs.”

“The delight a friend feels when he hears a friend's voice bring all that matters. There are those who hear within a voice the essence being said, and there are those who can't.”

“Don't look at your form, however ugly or beautiful. Look at love and at the aim of your quest...O you whose lips are parched, keep looking for water. Those parched lips are proof that eventually you will reach the source.”

“Come out of the circle of time and into the Circle of Love.”

"You are searching the world for treasure, but the real treasure is yourself.

Not the ones speaking the same language, but the ones sharing the same feeling understand each other.

Come into my eyes, and look at me through them,
for I have chosen a home far beyond what eyes can see.

Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain which grows flowers, not thunder.

There is hope after despair and many suns after darkness.

The real beloved is that one who is unique, who is your beginning and your end.

The very center of your heart is where life begins, the most beautiful place on earth.

Light up the fire of love inside and blaze the thoughts away.

If you wish to be a mine of jewels, open the deep ocean within your heart.

Blessed is the poem that comes through me but not of me because the sound of my own music will drown the song of Love.

Love is a mirror..You see nothing but your reflection..You see nothing but your real face.

“Words are a pretext. It is the inner bond that draws one person to another, not words.”

I looked in temples, churches and mosques. But I found the Divine in my heart.

All doubt, despair, and fear become insignificant once the intention of life becomes love.

Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.

The cure for pain is in the pain.

Gratitude is the wine for the soul. Go on. Get drunk.

If you wish for light, be ready to receive light.”

"Love is not written on paper, for paper can be erased. Nor it is etched on stone, for stone can be broken. But it is inscribed on a heart and there it shall remain forever." 

“We rarely hear the inward music, but we’re all dancing to it nevertheless.”

Live life as if everything is rigged in your favor.”

“When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of distress and anxiety. If I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without any pain.”

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

“Go find yourself first so you can find me.”

--Jalal ad-Din Rumi

Thursday, June 1, 2017

7 Laws of Leadership

I have read and written a great deal about leadership and being a boss in a corporate setting, and am a big fan of the development of leadership skills in a person’s life. No, not everyone will be a leader all the time, but when you do lead, great leadership makes ordinary people into extraordinary people. So, what is it about leadership that is so important and what are the characteristics that make a great leader? As Orrin Woodward once said, “The only thing tougher than developing leadership skills is attempting to be successful without them.”

In that vein, there are seven critical characteristics that make great leaders stand out from other people. What is amazing is that there is nothing super human about them, and any one of us can hone these skills if we do a little practicing every day. Yes, leadership is in all of us if we just put a little effort into it.

Optimistically Realistic

Napoleon Bonaparte once stated that a leader is a dealer in hope. To take it a bit further, “There is nothing more inspiring and stimulating than being in the company of optimists. It is the core of true leadership,” as James Joyce says. Still, a major challenge with being a leader is the ability to balance being a “cheerleader” with being a pragmatist. So, if you are too much of a optimist and something bad happens, you might have to tendency to sit back and say, “do not worry, everything will work out.” Of course, a pessimist will throw up their hands and complain about the situation or blame other people or external forces at work. But a optimistically realist will get others to believe that whatever action they do, it will move them closer to their goals. Essentially, they put things in motion and are people of action. To sum it up, “Leadership conceives and articulates goals that lift people out of their petty preoccupations and unite them in pursuit of objectives worthy of their best efforts,” as quoted by John Gardner.

Walk the Talk

“Anything that costs you your integrity is too expensive,” and this goes especially true for great leaders. People might listen to what you say, but the always are looking a what you do as a leader. It is through actions that great leaders develop trust and inspire admiration. You see many leaders say that integrity is important to them, but great leaders walk their talk by demonstrating integrity every day. Extolling the virtue of something does not mean you possess it; just as harping about the behavior you want to see in people has little impact. What does have an impact is you, as a leader, acting in a way that others will mimic. As Max DePree says, “Leadership is much more an art, a belief, a condition of the heart, than a set of things to do. The visible signs of artful leadership are expressed, ultimately, in its practice.”

Confidently Defiant

As I like to say, “Confidence is armor you cannot buy.” We naturally gravitate to people who are confident because confidence is contagious, and it helps us to believe that there are great things are in store in the future. The trick, as a leader, is to make certain your confidence does not denigrate into arrogance and cockiness. Confidence is about passion and belief in your ability to make things happen. It is not about idly boasting about your skills or abilities. When your confidence loses touch with reality, you begin to think you can do things you cannot and start to believe that you have done things that you have not. Suddenly it becomes all about you. This arrogance makes you lose credibility, integrity, and most importantly, loyalty.

The secret sauce is that confident leaders are still humble. They do not allow their accomplishments and position of authority to make them feel that they are superior or better than anyone else. As such, they do not hesitate to jump in and do the dirty work that is needed to be done, and they do not ask their followers to do anything they are not willing to do themselves.

Kind Hearted

One of the toughest things for leaders to master is the soft touch of being kind hearted. Great leaders understand that kindness is about sharing credit and offering enthusiastic praise for people’s work, effort and success. It’s a balancing act, between being genuinely kind and not looking weak. The real hard part is finding that balance between recognizing that being kind is really about trusting yourself and actually being strong. It is about keeping your integrity and always being direct and straightforward with everyone you interact with. Telling people the difficult truth they need to hear is much kinder than protecting them (or yourself) from a difficult conversation. It is about facing reality head on, not dodging it to do the easy stuff.

True kindness also does not come with expectations of reciprocation. Being kind is a weakness when you use it in a self-serving manner. Self-serving kindness is thin and week, and people will be able to see right through it when a kind leader has an agenda. Think of those leaders who gave without any benefits to themselves, but only thinking of other people. Now, that is true kindness and leadership.

Fluidly Strong

While strength is important in a leader, how great leaders use strength is what sets them apart. “As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong,” as so well observed by Lao Tzu. Loyalty is derived directly from whether a leader demonstrates the ability to be strong, to make the difficult decision and can care for those in his or her charge. People want a leader who will stay the course, but make a change when it is called for.

Emerson once stated, “Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” A great leader will not make the mistake of domineering, controlling, and doing otherwise harsh behavior for strength. People do not want to ruled by force, but coerced by strength. They will follow and trust a leader that demonstrates strength time and time again in the face of adversity.

Self Sacrificing

Lao Tzu once said, “In wishing to be above men, put yourself by words below them, and, wishing to be before them, place yourself behind them.” What this means is that to be a great leader, you must first be a servant. The best leaders will do anything for their teams, and in doing so, they will have their teams support no matter what. Great leaders know that They take a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit.” They do not shift blame, and they own up when they fail. They know where the buck stops, and keep that target on themselves no matter what. Great leaders also make it clear that they welcome challenges, criticism, and viewpoints other than their own. They know that the best teams work in an environment where people are not afraid to speak up, offer insights, and ask good questions.

Love, Actually

Great leaders know it is about giving, not taking, and that includes love. Love is about giving freedom and power, not about gaining possession and control. Great leaders really love people, not just the work those people are doing for them. And by people, not just the people close to them or who work for them, but anyone they meet. They understand that love is about giving others respect and authority, and not about hording power and information.

And in order to love others, great leaders understand that you cannot give what you do not possess. They take time to develop the self-love that is necessary to be a giving person. In addition, they have also mastered the art of life and living as stated by James Michener in his quote, “The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he's always doing both.” A great leader makes other leaders, and shows them that in the end, it really is all about love.

Saturday, February 18, 2017

Men v. Boys

I have been reading a lot of articles of late about relationships and seeing some that put men into groups without understanding that men are NOT all alike.  By lumping all men together, the concept of being a gentleman does not come into play. Women, and people in general, have to realize that there are men of character, culture and grace, and then there are boys.  Boys are men who have chosen not to grow up and become wise in the ways of civility, charm, and substance. This post highlights the differences between men and boys.  Ladies, which are you dating? Men, whom are you?


Men: See women as the fairer, not weaker, sex
Boys: See women as weak and just for sex
Men: Realize that to be a leader, you need to be a servant
Boys: Only want to be seen as a leader to get the recognition
Men: Hold doors, and rise when a woman enters a room or comes to the table, knows how to be a gentleman
Boys: Have no idea what those concepts are nor why you should do it for women
Men: Honor women
Boys: Desire women
Men: Make Love
Boys: Have Sex
Men: Give freedom and power to their significant other
Boys: Want to control and possess his girlfriend
Men: Appreciate a woman’s character, heart, and mind more than the beauty she possesses
Boys: Look for beauty first, and does not care of what she thinks, feels, or acts
Men: See women as equal partners
Boys: See women as something to “own”
Men: Take women out on dates
Boys: Do Booty calls
Men: Understand and practice the concepts of truth, integrity and fidelity with themselves and others
Boys: Are not faithful or honest with themselves so could not be with a woman or others